Friday, January 9, 2009

Daughters, dads and step moms....oh my!

Why can't we all just get along?
My oldest daughter, who is at her dads this week, (we have shared parenting, week on week off) calls me crying, from a number I don't know...."can you come pick me up?" Now i am freaking out, "where are you?!" she rattles someones name off that i don't know...apparently her and the step mom had words, the dad is at work, and the step mom took the phone with her when shand left...that was the jist of it. Immediately I am fuming of course. For one, don't leave my daughter at home alone with NO freaking phone, we have already been over this. Two...this has been going on now for several weeks, the arguing with the step mom, daughter calls me crying, the dad and I get into it because i am pissed that the step mom made MY daughter cry yet again....so now the dad is on his way home from work after only being there for 2 of his 12 hour shift.....am i glad i am here at MY house? ABSOLUTELY!!!
Why can't step moms, step dads, step kids, moms, dads, brothers, sisters all just get along? Why does everything have to be an argument?
13 year olds and step mom's just don't get along...don't you get it step mom? So just back off for a minute and let things cool off, stop stirring the pot...it will all settle down...she will have someone else to "not like" in a couple of weeks...she is a teenager..."everyone is doin' it"!!
For once I feel like I am the parent with no issues!! Excuse me while I go bask for alittle bit! (and wait for the dad to call me)
I hope everyone else is having a great evening as well!!

25 comments:

Denise said...

That is a rough situation for everyone. I hope it all calms down soon.

Keeper of the Skies Wife said...

and bask you should!! haha

Yeah the stepmom sounds immature!



no way in hell I'm doing the book next year!!

Mrs. S said...

blended families are really tough especially for her age..heck even at my age its difficult :) ahhh well. Glad you are no issues right now!! thats alwasy nice! :)

kimber p said...

grrr..it's already tough enough being a teenager, then you add a stepmother who acts like more of a child than the actual child does..ridiculous.

take deeeeeep breaths mom...lol

The Wife O Riley said...

My mother got re-married when I was 13 and it was a touchy situation for a while.

Then my father got re-married when I was 18 and it was the same.

It's tough thing to go through and I hope things go better soon.

You're doing a great job.

MuseSwings said...

Tough times! I hope things simmer down over there - especially for your daughter's sake.

Young Momma said...

That sounds awful! Sounds like your handling it so well though! I'd be at the step moms throat!

Sweet Nothings said...

I'm so sorry you all have to go through this! I had issues with my step-mom and they got married after I already moved out!! On a side note though, one thing that really helped me with the whole back and forth situation was, when I turned 16, I chose to go from every other week to my parents to every other month. It was really nice...however I'm not sure your daughter would want to be at her dad's for a whole month....

Hope the situation gets better!

Take Care,
Brittany

Seeker said...

Thanks for the visiting and reading the Orange poem. It was fun to do and so much better when i know someone else liked it. As for your problem...sounds more like "stepmoms" to me....things will work out ...cause daughter won't be there forever

April said...

My sister has a blended family that includes teenage girls...so I know how that can be! Hope your weekend get better!

JANE said...

Bask girl, Bask!!
That's a really tough one. SM needs to learn to back it off just like all the rest of us with teenagers do!!! Ya want us to talk to her, you know, set her straight............., LOL!!

Cammie said...

I grew up with stepparents also and it is so hard when the parent wants to be an ass and not a role model. Im sorry and I hope your daughter is okay

penguinsandladybugs said...

Can't believe that stepmom. SOME people! Have a good weekend!

sandy said...

"Stepmom needs to grow up"
Have a great weekend!

Call Me Cate said...

I can imagine it's tough but you're all supposed to be the adults. Which you get and stepmom seems not to. It's sad when the adults can't be grownups and it ends up upsetting the kids. I hope everything settles down soon and I'm glad your daughter knows that she can call you.

kel said...

I hope it all works out. The step mom kinda sounds like a pain.

Jillene said...

Sorry about all the drama going on!! I hope that thinks mellow out soon!

Cathy said...

My husband is step father to my 13 year old son. They had it pretty rough in the beginning...but it is getting better. Kids just need time to adjust to situations. I told my husband "don't add fuel to the fire....he doesn't want another dad...just be his friend."

mom said...

that is what Kimber needs to know..is quit trying to be a mother ..which Emily already has.
and try to be a friend..13 year olds do not like to be bullied..Kimber wants emily to do all her work and be a babysitter..that doen't fly with teenagers. mom

Deb said...

i think you are on to something. one of my son's female friends has been MAJORLY butting heads with the stepmom and the more sass she gives, the more the stepmom freaks. heck, my OWN kids are doing that with me... and you are right... if you back off, they'll move on

Maggie said...

Oh, I know... we have a similar situation with my oldest son. His father and I divorced when he was 3. Let's just say some days are good, some days are bad. But, there's ALWAYS drama. I guess it comes with the package. Hope your situation gets better.

BTW, we do resemble each other!! Isn't that crazy?! =)

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Anonymous said...

Maybe if you let the daughter know she can't tattle on her step mom with you, there wouldn't be all the drama. It sounds to me like you are the one stirring the pot. I'm not sure it's great for your daughter to know she can pull these stunts but evidently it is making you feel good.

Anonymous said...

I have to say that leaving a child alone without a telephone seems irresponsible. But she did find a telephone somehow. The previous commenter stated that you seem to enjoy their misery and it seems like you do. Why can't they all get along? Because no one, including you, seems to be trying. Being part of a blended family myself, I hope this works itself out. I know ultimately, this is such a hard situation. OH. And I do know some teenage daughters that LOVE their stepmothers. But of course, the mother encourages it.

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