Sunday October 5th was my boyfriend John's 36th birthday. Although he had a "happy" birthday, there was a sadness about him that lingered on throughout the day. At one point I said, "are you OK?" he said, "you haven't ever been around me on my birthday before, it isn't the best day of the year for me". Enough said, I knew exactly what he was referring to.
John was adopted 3 days after he was born. (Now, I have had friends and family members who have been adopted, but I guess the impact of it never really hit home until I spent the day with John on his birthday.) He was without a "parent" for those 3 days in a nursery somewhere in Indiana. All he knows about his birth mom is that she was young when she gave birth to him. Nothing else. John has a sister who was also adopted, but from a different birth mother. After spending every bit of $5000.00 on looking for her birth mom, she found out that she wanted nothing to do with her. This has kind of discouraged John from looking for his I believe.
So....in my curiosity and in my seeing John on his birthday, wondering about all the unknowns and the what ifs...I am now on a mission. I have registered him on all the adoption registry sites that I find, I have read stories about people searching and about reunions that would make the devil cry. Very interesting and some unbelievable. I have even contacted Troy Dunn...The Locator, which by the way is an awesome show! (watch for John on there someday - ha ha) Anyway, all we have to go by is his birth certificate, no names, no nothing. He knows his heritage is Irish, how I am not sure, but he does know that. His mom and dad have no information on the adoption and I guess at one time made a grave effort to find her for John, but had no luck.
So wish me luck and if you have any suggestions or helpful advice I can certainly use it. This is kind of an addiction, I just keep hoping one day there will be an email from his mother...I know how badly John wants to know this woman, how awesome would that be if I could make that happen? That satisfaction in itself is worth every second I put into this journey!!